I love it when I’m going about my day, and something “crosses my desk”, and decide to go rogue, and change my planned blog (which was all about Murphy, who had a 2-page spread in a magazine, so we shall have a Murphy Monday)…because, almost as if it was Karma, this resonated with me. Habits of happy people…and we can all us a little more Happy! And while I do think of myself as a happy person (or so I’m told), and typically spend more time laughing, than not, or trying to make others laugh, I love these reminders and love these refreshers! 2014. Best. Year. Ever!!
21 Habits of Happy People
Happiness is one aspiration all people share. No one wants to be sad and depressed. We’ve all seen people who are always happy – even amidst agonizing life trials. I’m not saying happy people don’t feel grief, sorrow or sadness; they just don’t let it overtake their life. The following are 21 things happy people make a habit of doing:
1. Appreciate Life. Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. Develop a childlike sense of wonder towards life. Focus on the beauty of every living thing. Make the most of each day. Don’t take anything for granted. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
2. Choose Friends Wisely. Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. Friends that have the same ethics as you will encourage you to achieve your dreams. They help you to feel good about yourself. They are there to lend a helping hand when needed.
3. Be Considerate. Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life. Respect them for who they are. Touch them with a kind and generous spirit. Help when you are able, without trying to change the other person. Try to brighten the day of everyone you come into contact with.
4. Learn Continuously. Keep up to date with the latest news regarding your career and hobbies. Try new and daring things that has sparked your interest – such as dancing, skiing, surfing or sky-diving.
5. Creative Problem Solving. Don’t wallow in self-pity. As soon as you face a challenge get busy finding a solution. Don’t let the set backs affect your mood, instead see each new obstacle you face as an opportunity to make a positive change. Learn to trust your gut instincts – it’s almost always right.
6. Do What They Love. Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! No wonder there’s so many unhappy people running around. We spend a great deal of our life working. Choose a career that you enjoy – the extra money of a job you detest isn’t worth it. Make time to enjoy your hobbies and pursue special interests.
7. Enjoy Life. Take the time to see the beauty around you. There’s more to life than work. Take time to smell the roses, watch a sunset or sunrise with a loved one, take a walk along the seashore, hike in the woods etc. Learn to live in the present moment and cherish it. Don’t live in the past or the future.
8. Laugh!! Don’t take yourself – or life to seriously. You can find humor in just about any situation. Laugh at yourself – no one’s perfect. When appropriate laugh and make light of the circumstances. (Naturally there are times that you should be serious as it would be improper to laugh.)
9. Forgive. Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind. When you make a mistake – own up to it – learn from it – and FORGIVE yourself.
10. Gratitude. Develop an attitude of gratitude. Count your blessings; All of them – even the things that seem trivial. Be grateful for your home, your work and most importantly your family and friends. Take the time to tell them that you are happy they are in your life.
11. Invest in Relationships. Always make sure your loved ones know you love them even in times of conflict. Nurture and grow your relationships with your family and friends by making the time to spend with them. Don’t break your promises to them. Be supportive.
12. Keep Their Word. Honesty is the best policy. Every action and decision you make should be based on honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your loved ones.
13. Meditate. Meditation gives your very active brain a rest. When it’s rested you will have more energy and function at a higher level. Types of meditation include yoga, hypnosis, relaxation tapes, affirmations, visualization or just sitting in complete silence. Find something you enjoy and make the time to practice daily.
14. Mind Their Own Business. Concentrate on creating your life the way you want it. Take care of you and your family. Don’t get overly concerned with what other people are doing or saying. Don’t get caught up with gossip or name calling. Don’t judge. Everyone has a right to live their own life the way they want to – including you.
15. Optimism. See the glass as half full. Find the positive side of any given situation. It’s there – even though it may be hard to find. Know that everything happens for a reason, even though you may never know what the reason is. Steer clear of negative thoughts. If a negative thought creeps in – replace it with a positive thought.
16. Love Unconditionally. Accept others for who they are. You don’t put limitations on your love. Even though you may not always like the actions of your loved ones – you continue to love them.
17. Persistence. Never give up. Face each new challenge with the attitude that it will bring you one step closer to your goal. You will never fail, as long as you never give up. Focus on what you want, learn the required skills, make a plan to succeed and take action. We are always happiest while pursuing something of value to us.
18. Be Proactive. Accept what can not be changed. Happy people don’t waste energy on circumstances beyond their control. Accept your limitations as a human being. Determine how you can take control by creating the outcome you desire – rather than waiting to respond.
19. Self Care. Take care of your mind, body and health. Get regular medical check ups. Eat healthy and work out. Get plenty of rest. Drink lots of water. Exercise your mind by continually energizing it with interesting and exciting challenges.
20. Self Confidence. Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. After all no one likes a phony. Determine who you are in the inside – your own personal likes and dislikes. Be confident in who you are. Do the best you can and don’t second guess yourself.
21. Take Responsibility. Happy people know and understand that they are 100% responsible for their life. They take responsibility for their moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words. They are the first to admit when they’ve made a mistake. Begin today by taking responsibility for your happiness. Work on developing these habits as you own. The more you incorporate the above habits into your daily lifestyle – the happier you will be.
Most of all: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.
I decided to forego my commentary on this, because I think it’s quite perfect the way it is!
This week, I am coming off a fabulous trip, one in which I was able to hang with some of my most favorite people. Ever. And, while it’s always great to come home (even without all your luggage, because it was lost by the airline), because there really is no place like home…It’s also a bit melancholy saying goodbye to my friends and colleagues, some whom I only get to see once/year. Plus, feather that in with Meredith, going back to school, after 3 glorious weeks at home, and I could use a little more happy! While, I’m grateful, for the new relationships I’ve made this week, and friends and colleagues I’ve “goofed off” with, and ones I’ve re-acquainted with…I did arrive home with a resounding goal for 2014: I will find a better way to stay in touch with the people I care about. And I will make that happen! I mean, it’s all about 2014…being the Best.Year.Ever.
Something else I shall pirate, which my friend Debbie posted. I think this should also be a good habit for angling to be happy:
Watch your tongue, be kind and happy for others and work on your insecurities. No need to drag others down, to make yourself happy. There’s no room for that in this world.
What’s wrong with just being you? Being you is quite good enough!
And on another Happy note, American Airlines did indeed deliver my lost luggage. 230AM…but it did arrive, and my clothes, shoes, handbags and boots, are back in my closet, so all is right in the world! And yes Mark B. (one of my very best guy friends), that is a blog…and one I promise to write. People’s attachment with their clothes. And attached I am!
Song of the Day: Dreaming. by Blondie. Truly makes you want to get up and Dance!
Upcoming Blogs: Spring Fashion Trends: Murphy, the super-star; Pocketsquares for Suits; Developing your own Personal Style; and People’s Attachment to their Clothes (for Mark B).
Cheers to 2014. Let’s all make it the Best. Year. Ever!
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