Archive | May, 2012

Best Summer of Your Life

30 May

I had lunch with a friend recently and something he said totally resonated with me.  When I asked him how he was doing, he said, “Great!  This is the first week of the best summer of my life”!  I Love that!  Talk about the power of positive thinking.  Summer hasn’t even “officially” started yet he’s already counting on and committed to having the best summer of his life.  If you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right! (My Mom’s favorite quote, btw).  He was having the best summer of his life, and it wasn’t even Memorial Day!

So, guess what?  I am also embarking on the Best Summer of My Life!  I’ve made that commitment and it’s going to happen.  And Kevin, Mer Mer and Paddy are coming along for the ride! We’re making a list of everything we want to do, see and accomplish this summer, and by golly, we’re going to do it all…even while in California. And, we’re gonna do fabulous things that aren’t on our list!  Our  Memorial Day Weekend was fantastic and that’s just the beginning!  We have the entire summer ahead of us.  And I (we) cannot wait!  Summer 2012…Best summer of my/our life!

Summer 2012…Best.  Summer.  Ever.



My favorite Summer Olympic Moment



Beauty and the Beach

25 May

It has been feeling like mid-July already in Chicago, so with the quickly approaching (or already here)  summer and beach/pool season  I thought I’d compile some of my favorite products for the beach or  pool…truth be told, I love looking at the water, but not a huge fan of the beach (or actually the hot sand), but love a bit of sun, and have been trying to rock the beach hair look whenever I can get away with it.  Of course trying to get the “beach hair look” ends up taking more time then just blow drying my hair. 🙂


Bain de Soleil – Either Orange Gel (but it’s rather greasy) or Orange Cream (which is hard to find).    Works best when you have a good base tan, as they only come in SPF4.

My friend Kim just turned me onto this Australian Gold Suntan lotion, with bronzer.  It smells divine, and  it helps accelerate your tan while providing much-needed sun protection.  I like the SPF 8, when I already have a base tan.  I start the season with SPF 30, then work my way down to SPF 15, then settle in for the summer with SPF 8.

BEACH by Bobbie Brown

Bobbi’s Beach scent comes in various forms…

Beach Fragrance – $55
Beach Body Oil – $28
Beach Shower Gel – $32
Beach Body Lotion – $35
Beach Body Scrub – $35
Beach Suncreen Body Spray SPF 15 – $25
Beach Sandbar Soap – $16


Eos Lip balm is less than $3 at Target and Walmart…Mer Mer and I are obsessed with this.  If you leave it in your car, and it melts, it actually  better coats your lips!  Don’t ask how I know this. 🙂

Essie’s Beach Party Nail Polish

Essie’s Off the Shoulder – I’m currently sporting this as my pedicure color.

How to get that “BEACH” hair look

Salt spray products that help you achieve this look.  You can find them at Target, Ulta, or even TJ Maxx.  Some of these products can be quite drying, so find the one that’s right for you.  And if you find your hair drying out due to overuse of these products, make sure you use a good deep conditioner.  Put on the conditioner while sitting in the sun (preferably in your yard, and not the neighborhood pool) to counter-balance the drying effect of these products.


J. Crew $88

Victoria’s Secret $48

Target $19.99

These pants are from Everything but Water – you can no longer find them online, but perhaps you could luck out at a store?  If not, this is a great look to angle towards.  Try checking out Target, Nordstrom or TJ Maxx for some of these looks.


I love the above sandals, but have no idea the brand, or where you can purchase them. 😦

Havanas , Nordstrom $26

Old Navy  2/$5


These totes range from $12 to several hundreds of dollars.  I don’t think spending more than $40 or $50 on a good beach tote is necessary, but many of these will already be on sale come June!

SUNGLASSES – don’t leave home without ’em

by Tory Burch, $165 – these will be rather hard to find. 😦

Because of my pasty Irish skin, I’m prone to burn if I don’t wear enough sunscreen, so try to go for a skin and mole check annually at the Dermatologist (Everyone should do this, btw)…When the dermatologist came into the room and saw my chart, she asked my age and told me she thought I was  34, 35 tops (and yes, I’m boasting here).  She said I have no lines around my eyes, and after discussing my lack of good skin care, she credited the fact that I Always wear sunglasses.  Always.  Even in cloudy weather – if it’s a tad bright outside, I wear sunglasses.  My eyes burned in the sun in my early 20’s and because my eyes will crust up like french bread if I don’t, I truly don’t leave home without my sunglasses (and when travelling have a spare pair as well)…Happily my obsession  appears to have also had a positive effect by protecting my eyes and the skin around them.  🙂



I realize this above pic is not for everyone…but doesn’t he look pleased with himself?  I smile when looking at this pic.

Yes, this woman above is a basic Nightmare…but pretty sure she got that body from hard work, which is better than finding out it’s just good genes!


Anything by the Beach Boys–cqAI3IUI

California Gurls by Katie Perry

All Summer Long by Kid Rock

Summer Nights from Grease


Gidget – the Original one with Sandra Dee…They made 3 movies, each with a different Gidget.  I’m a purist, I prefer the original.

Beach Blanket Bingo

Jaws 🙂

The perfect way to make your way around the path at the beach

And if you still want more, I found this great article, which I thought I’d share:

Pack-Smart Beach Essentials for Stylish Chicks

By Kathryn D’Imperio
Dashing off to the beach for vacation or a weekend getaway? Not so fast! Be sure you’ve packed all the essential items you’ll need to stay stylish and chic during your time in the sun! To maximize your fun, minimize the number of beauty accessories you lug along to you vacation location with these helpful packing hints:
* Lip Gloss is critical for preventing chapped, dried out smackers, but even more importantly, for avoiding sunburned lips! Try to find a tasty chap stick that also has SPF protection read the fine print, as many advertise whether or not they include SPF15 or greater.
Don’t stress out over how much eye make-up to bring, and forget about the liquid foundation.
* If you like, pack a waterproof mascara to prevent the waves from washing out your eyes. Nothing is worse than unexpectedly looking like a crybaby when you’re having the time of your life in the surf and on the sand! (Do not forget to pack make-up remover, as most waterproof mascara is resistant to even soap and water!)
* Bring a concealer stick or powder compact to touch up blemishes. Too much foundation on a warm day can look and feel cakey or may just run if the temperature is too high. Also, make-up bottles stowed away in luggage, purses and carry-on bags are a bad idea when traveling. I once had a bottle of liquid foundation coat the entire contents of my backpack, destroy a brand-new purse and give me at least an hour of clean-up in one fell swoop! If you simply cannot live without your liquid foundation, place the bottle in a zip-lock bag just in case!
* Craving some color? It can’t hurt to bring a hue or two of eye shadow but be careful with lipstick, as it tends to melt when higher temperatures prevail!
Body Care:
* No matter how badly you want a tan, bring suntan lotion to protect your precious hide from overexposure! Though they are possibly the most obvious item, don’t forget your sunglasses!
* Just in case you do get some sunburn, do your body a favor and slap on some aloe. A medium-sized plastic bottle is more than you will need, and you’ll thank yourself for remembering it if you happen to fall asleep on the beach.
* For another miracle remedy, pick up a bottle of cocoa butter lotion. Once the aloe has reduced the burning sensation from your skin, you can rub in a little cocoa butter to prevent peeling and to re-moisturize the afflicted area.
* Have you ever been caught in a sand storm? Well I have, and I can’t stress enough about the value of a bottle of eye drops in case those pesky particles of sand find their way into your eyes, whether by a storm itself or by a playful game of football or beach volleyball.
* Don’t forget your normal necessities such as toothpaste and toothbrush, deodorant or antiperspirants, towels, shaving gel and razors, tweezers, body wash, etc.
Hair Care:
* Remember to pack your shampoo and conditioner, brush and comb, elastic bands and/or barrettes. If you don’t want to heave your family sized containers of hair products to your vacation destination, you can easily pick up smaller travel-sized products. 
* When you spend time in the ocean or playing on the beach, what happens to the top of your head is likely the last thing on your mind. To help prevent sunburn on your scalp, consider packing a hat of some sort, a bandana or a hair scarf.
* If dried-out hair due to excessive exposure to sun, chlorine or saltwater is a concern of yours, fret not! When you return home from your time away, try a deep-conditioning treatment or masque (Some use sea kelp to restore moisture).
* For a “flirty” appearance, bring a cute sarong or wrap to wear to the beach, or simply pack a pair of comfy shorts if you hope to beat up on the guys in football and Frisbee!
* Take two towels: one to lie on and one that is sand-free for when you need to dry off. A beach blanket or beach mat also serve a handy purpose for shore-goers.
* An old T-shirt doubles as an escape from the suns powerful rays when you just want to relax and enjoy the sounds of the surf. Also, a T-shirt is good to have on hand as it is important to cover exposed skin when the sun has already burned it.
* Normal clothes that you should be sure to bring: Shorts and tanks/tees, jeans or other long pants, perhaps a long-sleeve shirt and a hooded sweatshirt, a sundress, pajamas, bathing suit and underclothes. Dont forget to bring a windbreaker or light jacket for those chilly nights off the coast!
* Footwear: Bring sandals or flip-flops, sneakers and shoes to go with at least one nice outfit. (Hint: Try to pack outfits that look nice with the same sandals to reduce the need for extra shoes. As long as you can help it, you should not be toting an entire bag dedicated to shoes alone!)

As this blog has gotten rather “lengthy”, I will take the section on Great Beach Reads, and feature a separate blog in the next few weeks.

Have a great, safe,  long weekend!  Mine has already begun, and as soon as I publish this blog, I’m meeting up with one of my favorite people in the world, Carol, to walk (some call it a jog) , talk and solve all the world’s problems…but it’s the Friday of Memorial Day…it’s 70 and sunny, what problems?! 🙂

Surfs Up!!



Nail Polish is the New Lipstick

18 May

Nail polish is the new Lipstick…whatever does That mean?  Well, it’s a “must have” purchase, even when economic times are challenging, as lipstick was in the depression.  I guess that means Women will make sure their hands are well manicured, and will do without other items…like dining out, movies, clothes (blasphemy), and other “luxuries”…instead seeing nail polish as a necessity, like food, shampoo, deodorant and Chardonnay!

Nails have become an inexpensive way to inject a season’s hottest color trends into your wardrobe.  The truth is, unique and outrageous nail polish shades aren’t exactly new.  In the 1980s, neon colors were all the rage.  And those crackle nail polishes that people are suddenly so gaga over?  CoverGirl went there and did that at least 15 years ago.  So what makes this evolution of nail color so different? Why is it more widespread and accepted than ever before? 

For one, the economy.  In recent years, nail polish has replaced lipstick as an indicator of the economy. What Leonard Lauder coined the Lipstick Index, meaning the rise in cosmetic sales inversely correlated to economic health, is no more.  Nail polish sales are growing in leaps and bounds, surpassing lipstick, due to its affordability.

It’s a cheap thrill.  A Chanel handbag may be out of your financial reach but a Chanel nail polish is a budget friendly way to bring those interlocking C’s into your lifestyle.  Thanks to designers incorporating nail color into their runway looks, nails have become an accessory and an inexpensive way to inject the hottest color trends of the season into your wardrobe.  The price tag on those Fendi color-block shoes you’ve been coveting may make your wallet cry, but buying blue and orange lacquers to color-block your nails is within everyone’s price range.

The second factor is our obsession with all things celebrity and the ungodly access we have to them thanks to Twitter and Facebook and all the blogs and Web sites out there.  A single Twitpic of Katy Perry’s flower patterned nails caused a run on Minx nail appliqués and a number of knock-offs for at-home use.  Beyoncé wearing a turquoise Chanel nail polish in a music video sold out the shade.

Tweens, teens and twenty-somethings will always be early adopters to trends, but thanks to its low price tag and celebrity support, nail art and wacky nail polish colors have worked their way into the hearts of the more mature set.

Courtesy of

My Favorite Nailpolish Colors

I don’t wear dark colors on my hands because my hands are not lovely.  Plus, because I have Renaud’s Syndrome (where my hands and feet are Always cold), and my nails on my hands no longer seem to grow, so I like a pale pink on my hands…but for my feet (which are also Not lovely), anything goes!  I like I’m not really a waitress (kind of a red color) from Thanksgiving through Christmas.  Then from Christmas until spring break I enjoy the very dark Lincoln Park after Dark…then a French Pedicure from Spring Break through November.  Again, Always light pink on my finger nails.  And I totally love the names of the polish…almost as much fun as wearing the polish!

OPI’s I’m not Really a Waitress

Essie Ballet Slippers

OPI Lincoln Park After Dark

And that’s as risky as I go…though I’ve thought of dabbling in other colors…And here are some other Popular Colors that I’m strongly considering adding to my repertoire of nail colors!

OPI’s You don’t know Jacques

OPI’s Black Chutney

Essie’s Lulu

Essie Cat Walk

Essie’s Chicago

Essie’s Brooch the Subject

Butter London Free 3

Essie’s Watermelon

Lancome Verdan in Love Boudoir Time

Essie Ole Caliente’

Essie’s Off the Shoulder – I plan on trying this on my toes next, instead of my summer french pedicure!

Essie’s Summer 2012 Collection

OPI’s Spring 2012 Collection

And here are some new “trends”…These trends are not necessarily the style and taste of this blogger, btw. 🙂

The No Chip Manicure

On average, the no-chip manicure lasts for two to three weeks with no chipping! It can and does work for anyone and appears to be the new trend…and a trend that is here to stay.  What I like most about it is when you walk out of the salon, your nails are dry.  Period.   No smudges, chips, or dents.  Totally dry.

Here’s the process:

*Nails are painted similarly to a regular manicure
*One at a time, nails are placed under a UV lamp
*The UV lamp cures and dries the polish instantly, which means there’s absolutely no drying time!
*The total curing and drying time takes about 10 minutes, and then you can walk out the door with nails totally dry

It’s truly that simple.  Prices range about $35.  You should be able to find a no chip manicure at any salon.  Some people complain their nails seem to weaken after using this process, but I didn’t have that problem.  Try it and see if it’s for you.

There’s also a new product by OPI called Gel Color – You can do it yourself at home.  The colors are $35/bottle (kinda steep), but you also have to buy the UV lamp for $335.  I did find a UV light nail dryer for $52.99 on Amazon.  They also have starter kits with a variety of different nail colors for less than $100.  You can recoup your investment over 6-months by doing your own nails.

How to Get Nail Polish out of just about Anything

by Bella Sugar

Into every life, a little nail polish must fall. But just because you accidentally lacquered your skirt, desk, or couch, that doesn’t mean the stuff has to stay there. The faster you act, the better off you’ll be, and most materials respond well to solvents you already have lying around the house. See our easy polish stain fixes now.

Removing Polish From Wood
First rule: don’t use nail polish remover on wood. It actually ruins finishes and leaves new, maybe even worse looking, stains. Don’t panic, though, because there’s actually a really easy way to fix the polish-on-wood problem. Just spritz your polish puddle down with plenty of hair spray (we use Aqua Net), let it sit for about 20 seconds, and then wipe it off. You might need to repeat the process a few times, but it’s far, far preferable to having splotchy furniture.

Removing Polish From Cloth
Probably one of the most common polish problems, this is also a tricky one. Nail polish remover can interact with some dyes and fabrics (it’ll actually melt acetate), so perform a spot test before you use it. If you use remover on your fabric, make sure to launder it directly afterward. And if remover isn’t an option, you can always try hair spray. Dry cleaning solvent can also usually remove polish, so if you can’t get it out at home, don’t be afraid to run it down to your cleaners.

Removing Polish From Hair
If you were in a rush and ended up both ruining your nails and painting up your hair, the fix is pretty simple. If the polish is still wet, just grab some non-acetone polish remover and run it down the polished strands. If it’s dry already, work some conditioner or oil gently through your hair until you can slide the polish bits out.

Removing Polish From Carpet
First of all, what color is your carpet? If it’s light or white, using a non-acetone polish remover is probably your best bet. If it’s dark and you’re not sure about whether the dye might interact with it, try pouring on hair spray or rubbing alcohol and then blotting the polish up with a sponge or paper towels. Don’t give up if the polish just seems to keep coming — you want to get every last bit out.

The Most Outrageous Nail Polish Names (aka, names that make me laugh)

Before He Cheats

I’m not really a whore and left him cuffed by the bed

Friar, friar, pants on fire

Dick weed

Iris I was thinner


Pussy Galore

What’s with the Cattitude

I’m Indi-a mood for love

Skin tight denim

Meet Balls

Unconventional ways to use Nail polish

We all know the drill when it comes to nail polish: Paint and put away. But now you don’t have to be so quick to shelve your shade. Here are 5 out-of-the-box ways to wield that colorful little wand that I found in Cosmopolitan magazine.

1. Use it to paint the sole of your high-heels (think: Christian Louboutin) as an easy (and cheap!) way to update them for spring. Note: Colored opaque formulas work best since they won’t reveal the true color of your shoe. Also, avoid getting paint on other parts of your shoe by placing masking tape along the edge where the shoe meets the sole—the same way you would protect the ceiling and window panes when you’re painting a room. Once you’ve covered the sole in color, allow it to dry before applying a second coat. If another layer isn’t needed, pull off the tape to reveal a neat polish job.

2. Cover up a scratch on scuffed shoes or boots. It can be hard to find shoe polish for colorful kicks, so try finding a nail polish that matches instead. But don’t rely on a bottle-to-shoe comparison, since the color can look different when it’s applied. Put the hue on your nail first and give it a minute to dry to make sure it’s a close-enough match to your shoes.

3. Personalize your favorite bag. Enlist the help of stencils and tape to make your initials look perfect.

4. Change the look of a necklace, ring, or earrings by covering faux jewels with a pop of color, like neon green, orange, or pink, to create your own DIY version of a Tom Binns Design. Simply lay the accessory flat on a paper towel and begin to paint.

5. Prevent new, fake jewelry from tarnishing. When air hits the metal, it oxidizes it and changes its color. Since clear lacquer locks out the air, it helps keep your costume jewelry looking new. Note: This will not work on already-tarnished accessories.

And lastly, a great idea to use different nail polish colors:

Colour My World, by Chicago!



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A Smile, Sequins and Champagne

11 May

I love when I find these little nuggets of wisdom, which I feel makes for a far better blog then my rambling on and on and on! 🙂

A Smile being a woman’s (or man’s) best accessory is a Given. We all know this. But how does one incorporate sequins into her wardrobe? And note, I indicated “her”. Not sure I’ve met too many men who could pull off sequins…nor should they! Here are some of my favorite looks with sequins.

You can dress Sequins Up (of course) or down…I have a sequin clutch I use all the time, morning, noon and night. I’d pair that sequin tank with a black sweater and jeans, or a denim jacket and white jeans. The sequin Toms will probably be seen all across the land this summer, and how cute would those high heels be with a crisp white blouse and your very best pair of jeans?!

Sequins…don’t leave home without ’em!

And Champagne…not just for breakfast anymore! 🙂




Fifty Shades of Fabulous

10 May


Fifty Shades of Grey…If you haven’t read it, you should.  And you must get all 3 books:  Fifty Shades of Grey; Fifty Shades Darker; and Fifty Shades Free.

I read all 3 in a week and a half. 🙂

Laters, Baby!



Can a “Husky” Man Dress Well? And can someone, Please come up with a better term than “Husky”?

7 May

Yes, a “Husky”, aka “Larger” man can indeed dress well.

I aim to please.  I can’t help it.  It’s who I am.  I’m a “people pleaser”.  So when a friend complimented  my blog about Men’s Sports Coats (The Truth about Sports Coats…not that we were every lying:, he seemed to like the blog, but Not  necessarily the pictures I used:

Love the blog, but not necessarily the pictures/examples…I’m fat (Mom calls me husky), can I not dress well?  Can you help me dress well? (Mr. X)

I knew at that moment (and I believe I received that comment around 11PM), that I needed to  Jump to action (or Pen into action) and craft something to help provide guidelines to Mr. X.  And as I mentioned to Mike (Mr. X) , I really need to stop using pictures of my old boyfriends in my blogs. 🙂

And just what is a good word to use for the “not quite thin male”?  Portly?  Heavy?  Chunky?  Big?  Husky?  Fluffy?  I think we need to coin a new term, as I find the former rather unbecoming.   I’m at a loss here.  I don’t like Any of those terms…and naming this blog was not easy.

Here are some tips for Dressing for Big and Tall Men

1.  Accept your body for what it is right now. Even if you want to lose weight, make peace with your size right now and move forward from here. While it is good to pursue a healthier lifestyle, getting down about your weight isn’t attractive, and depression doesn’t motivate changes (at least not healthy ones).  Plus no one wants to hear you complain about your weight, when we are thinking about our own. 🙂

2.  Wear clothes that fit you now. While you may have been lighter six months or six years ago, and you may at one point weigh that much again, if it doesn’t fit you now, don’t wear it now. Over-tight clothing just draws attention to the fact that the clothes don’t fit you, and emphasize curves you may not want emphasized. Similarly, over-sized clothes don’t make big people look smaller, they just make you look bigger. You may even want to go get fitted for a pair of pants, as what you THINK fits you may not be what fits you best.

3.  Don’t buy shirts that are huge and baggy, thinking it will make you look better. It’s all in your mind, and chances are it will only make you look sloppy. A t-shirt that is 2 sizes too big will be too large in the shoulders and neck, will hang too low and will make you look even bigger as a result.  The same goes for those large camp shirts (think Charlie Sheen)…when it’s too large, it looks like you are indeed, wearing a tent.  I have a perfect example of this, which was sent to me by numerous people, but since I know the victim, I mean the person, it would be in poor form to post a picture of him as a fashion don’t, without his permission, or knowledge.

4.  If you have problems keeping shirts tucked in, there are some ways to help. Buy shirts labeled “tall”, which are usually available only in large or XL but if you are in that size group, then they will fit you will without being too big. Put your shirt on FIRST, and then your pants. Do not do too much “blousing out” of the shirt, particularly at the front, but also don’t tuck TOO tight – somewhere in between will look best. And always wear a belt – one that is wide, thick, and sturdy will work best, and wear it tighter than you would with a untucked shirt (a wide belt will feel more comfortable if tight, than a narrow belt will.)

5.  Find clothes that fit the largest part of your body and have them tailored. If the pants fit in the waist, but are busting at the seams at your thighs, buy a larger size that fits your thighs and have them taken in at the waist. It is better to pay $65 for a pair of pants that fit you perfectly, than $50 for pants that doesn’t.

6.  Wear vertical stripes (stripes that go Up and Down) :). Even a faint pinstripe (which is very “in” right now) does wonders for creating a nice vertical line. Make sure that the stripes are on clothes that fit you because a regular pattern like a stripe can accentuate clothes that don’t fit and make you look like a watermelon instead of the leaner look you should be angling towards.  This is a great rule for women as well…no one wants to look like a watermelon!

7.  Wear straight leg pants with no pleats. Straight leg pants (meaning as wide at the bottom as at the thigh) keeps you from being V-shaped with tiny ankles and a wider midsection. If your pants fit, you don’t need pleats.

8.  Don’t add extra bulk to your body. Cargo pants, hoodies with front pouches, bulky sweaters, and the such can make you look bigger. Shoulder pads are also a generally a no-no (speaking in terms of suits, not aka Linda Evans from Dynasty). While natural materials are generally preferable, synthetics can help you cut down on bulky clothes during colder seasons.

9.  If you have a large wallet, giant cell phone, a large key ring, a PDA, writing utensils, and a pad of paper, you may want to invest in a messenger bag or suitcase. While nobody wants a man-purse, lots of things in your pocket just add weight to your waistline. For a professional look, invest in a high-quality briefcase.

10.  Lighter shades attract attention, darker shades detract. Use these principles in conjunction to suit your body best. If you have a larger torso than bottom half, dark on top and lighter on bottom can help you look more proportional.

11.  Undershirts can keep you cooler in the summer, warmer in the winter, and help to avoid some sweat-seepage.  Nothing is more unbecoming than wildly visible sweat on one’s shirt…especially when it’s not the cause of a kick-a** workout! 🙂

12.  Don’t obsess about how you look. That’s what women do.  Confidence will make more of a difference in your appearance than a new wardrobe.  Clearly, the below visual is aimed towards women, but I think both men and women can take something from here!

(Source:  wiki-how)

Now my new friend Mike (actually my friend Kristin’s husband, but I find him quite funny and witty and shall refer to him as “my friend” as well)…so, my new friend Mike sent me this picture of him on Easter…and was wondering if perhaps I could offer him help.  Hmmm.

Sadly, when he sent me this photo, I thought I was being Punk’d.  I then realized I’m not nearly as famous as my blog depicts and no one cares enough to punk me (except Kevin, Meredith and Patrick) and when I asked Mike if I was being punk’d, he made mention of someone being “sassy” (not sure whom he was referring) so decided, he was, indeed, quite serious.    Personally, I  think he looks darling.   I love his bow tie, shirt and slacks, but would Not have done a light-colored jacket (or is that an actual suit?).   So lighter trouser, darker sport coat, same shirt and bow tie, and Love, love, love the Bucks!  Swap out that sport coat, and he’d be on my Best Dressed list!  Another option for Mike on Easter, could have been this look  Mr. Vince Vaughn is sporting, with either a matching trouser or khaki or stone trouser. Dark blazer, striped blue shirt, khaki trouser, and you’d be good to go anywhere.

So, if the above tips weren’t enough, I found more, that were more specific to the needs of larger men.

“Fashion Tips for Larger  Men”

I found these little tidbits on, but they referred to the Men as “Fat”.  I don’t care for that term, so changed it to “Larger”.  Again, I do not find Mike, or other “not-thin” men “fat”, but perhaps “cuddly” is a more accurate term until we can coin a better term.
The best way to look great in the long-term when you’re overweight is to lose excess weight with the help of a proper diet and exercise program. Once you start dropping pounds, your clothes will fit better and your confidence will increase along with your motivation to try new fashions and styles.

Since there’s no reason to put off looking good until you reach your goal weight, we’ve put together a few fashion tips to help you make the most of your large body type and create a slimmer-looking physique.

Don’t wear tops with sloped shoulders.  Avoid tops with naturally sloped shoulders as these tend to draw the eye down to your midsection. Instead, check to make sure that all your tops have slightly squared shoulders as these will concentrate others’ attention on your body to your chest and face.

Don’t wear bold patterns.  Avoid loud or bold patterns as they will make you stand out in addition to drawing attention to the upper half of your body. One pattern you should wear, however, is vertical lines; they create optical continuity and will help elongate the look of your body. Dark, solid colors are also your new best friend as they are an instant physique fixer and will make you seem 10 pounds thinner.

Wear low-rise bottoms.  Instead of wearing trousers and jeans that hit at your waist, invest in low-rise bottoms that sit on your hips. Low-rise trousers have a shorter distance between the top of the waistband and the crotch of your pants than regular trousers. Also, ensure that the waistband of your pants is large enough to accommodate your midsection so that your belly does not stick out over your pants. A stomach that protrudes over your pants lengthens your torso and shortens your legs — not exactly the most attractive combination. Rotund individuals should also avoid pants with pleats as they will make your pelvic area look bigger.

Empty your pockets.  As mentioned above, but is worth another mention.  Emptying your pockets of unnecessary items  will take the focus off a large midsection. On your pants, have any bulky side pockets sewn shut or removed by a good tailor. Doing so won’t cost much and it will make your hips appear smaller.

Wear V-neck shirts.  V-necks are a great way to create the illusion of a slimmer neckline, particularly if you have a double chin, as they place emphasis on your chest area instead of on your neck. When it comes to dress shirts, choose ones with very pointed collars to focus others’ attention on your face. Avoid turtlenecks completely as they will make your neck disappear, meaning that you’ll look shorter and, therefore, bigger.

Wear three-button blazers.  Avoid one and two-button blazers. Instead, go for blazers with three buttons. They are just as classic as two-button blazers, but they will elongate your body and make you appear taller and, therefore, thinner. As well, always leave the top button on your blazer undone as it will stop your clothes from pulling, particularly in the area around your middle, and consequently, your movement will seem less restricted.

Stand up straight.  It’s a tried-and-true tip: Work on your posture. Standing up as straight as possible will make you look like you just dropped 10 to 15 pounds and will also make you feel and act more confident — a trait that most people find quite attractive. To appear even slimmer, buy shoes with a small heel of about half an inch to one inch.

Avoid bulky blazers.  Avoiding bulky fabrics means that chunky wool sweaters are a big no-no. To stay warm in the winter, choose cashmere as it provides warmth without adding bulk to your figure. Or, try a dress shirt and V-neck sweater vest combination as the sweater vest will keep you warm while also smoothing out your midsection and love handles. For suits, choose softer wools so that the fabric is as thin as possible. Invest in high-quality, lightweight wool suits if you can afford them as these will be the most flattering suits for your body and you’ll feel and look like a million bucks when you put them on.

Wear pants with a longer hem.  Wear your pants long to look taller and thinner. They should hit almost at the ground to really lengthen your body. If you’re wearing shoes with a slight heel, the bottom of your pants should hit about a quarter to a half-inch above the heel, no more.

Ensure your clothes aren’t too tight.  Your clothes should fit perfectly. Garments that are too tight will reveal all the lumps and bumps you’d rather not draw attention to.  Alternatively, while very loose clothing will hide your problem areas, it will also make you look larger than you actually are. Take care when shopping to choose pieces that skim over your body and smooth out its surface.

This picture is a Fashion “Don’t” by the way! 🙂

What to Wear
Whatever your body type, play up your best features and de-emphasize those you don’t love quite as much. Dress to flatter your physique, but don’t try too hard as you don’t want to look like a bald man who uses a comb-over to hide his flaws — only to emphasize his problem areas.


Here are some looks that I think look fabulous on Cuddly, “Big and Tall”  Men!

Cam, from Modern Family…best show on TV, btw.  While this shirt is large and baggy, it still fits well.

I like the look of the white-t underneath the striped polo.

These are some good options to wear with jeans.

though with the above the cargo pants can add size to the legs.  If you have thinner legs, this is a great option.

a zip up sweater, with shirt underneath…and you only need to zip up the sweater half way up, if it makes you feel trimmer.

This plaid suit coat and tie combo seems to work well on him.

Al Roker, his weight has gone up and down and up and down, right before our eyes, but he’s Always well-dressed.

This gentleman above isn’t necessarily “heavy”, but he was in a Big and Tall ad, and I like his look.

This is a great example of a well-fitting shirt which works nicely tucked out.

Another good example of a well-fitting shirt, which doesn’t look like a large sack.

Truth in blogging…I do know the young lady (who is perfection, btw) and gentleman above…Meet Meredith and Kevin.  Kevin isn’t thin (or at least when he stops working out with the trainer), and he really can rock a suit…He, however, needs a bit of help in casual dressing (another blog).

***This gentleman is wearing a Pink tie…Every man should have a Pink tie.  Repeat.  Every man should have a Pink tie.  This tie, featured below is, in my opinion, the best tie Ever!!  And just like women’s shoes or handbags, no man Ever said, “Does this tie make me look fat”?

And Mike, you and Kristin were the Picture of perfection on your wedding day.  This outfit works perfectly for your beach wedding.  You both looked absolutely Marvelous!!…Truly, cutest couple ever!

And as my very dear friend Carol  just commented, which is worthy of an edit:

Big or small, lovely people have the good stuff on the inside, then take what they have on the outside and make it work.


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What’s with Jay and his Totally Unbecoming Behavior?!

4 May

I was happily going about my day when I received this picture of Jay Cutler, flipping the bird at photographers, from Meredith.   Her email said “Zack just sent this to me…said that he’s pretty sure you have not advised Jay to do this “.  And correct you are Zack!  It appears my work here with Mr. Cutler  is Not yet done!

Sadly, this picture, along with a plethora of others, seemed to go viral as Jay appears to be telling the city of Chicago, we are #1 in his book with his middle appendage.  Seriously, do people still flip others off?  Isn’t that rather crude, rude, and unbecoming behavior?  What would His mother think?  What would Her mother think? And he is doing so alongside his pregnant girlfriend (yes, I know fiance, but I’m sticking with girlfriend).  And how warm and caring, that he’s holding her hand, yet Flipping off the photographer with the other.  Isn’t that an oxymoron?

Of course, there were plenty of pictures of Miss Cavallari flipping off photographers last year when Jay Dumped her.  I’m sorry, I mean when Jay briefly broke up with her.  What woman flips the bird at people?!  Or perhaps she was flipping off Jay? 🙂

I apologize for not being able to black out the offending motions on 2 of the above photos…Unfortunately, I have no idea how to do that.  And I realize that posting these pics isn’t very stylish on my part, but I’m rather riled up about this, and wanted to get my message out there (as well as the thoughts of the city of Chicago). Plus I’m intermingling lovely little pics to offset the unbecoming photos. 🙂

Sorry Bruce and Beth…It appears Jay and Kristin are  now American’s favorite Couple!  Kidding!  They’re both about to be parents (and yes, I guess Earl Bennett blew the big secret on a radio program mentioning America’s favorite couple is expecting a boy.  They were shocked and appalled that their “secret” was strewn throughout the airwaves…Really?  Then why tell a “Teammate” your “big secret”?  If you want something kept secret, here’s a hint…Don’t tell people! Jay is “allegedly” so upset he’s deleted his Twitter account.  Yikes).  Sorry…got off on a tangent…so, Jay and Kristin are about to be parents, yet Jay has been flipping the bird to photographers…Do they realize when their child (let’s stick with 1 for now) will google his (thanks Earl) parents, he’ll see the picture of Mom and Dad, both flipping their fingers at the “paparazzi”…(and hopefully many of Jay winning numerous Superbowl championships with the Bears).  Crass, crass behavior.  Thankfully Meredith and Patrick haven’t been traumatized by any errant photos of Kevin and I!  I guess being nobody’s has its advantages. 🙂

I would like the record to reflect, Your Honor, that I have been a big supporter of Jay Cutler.  I’ve written supportive blogs, posted handsome photo’s of him, given constructive criticism as to how to better embrace his team and Chicago, and bought 1st row seats behind the Bears bench (as opposed to my 1st row seats behind the visitors bench) to keep an eye on him ( my sister Megan thinks I’m his Muse, which I’m not, but I like saying that).  When people bad mouthed him, I stood by him.  My friends, Phyllis, Lora, Stephanie, Kathy, Jack and Nancy (to only name a few) taunted me for being such a loyal supporter.  I rallied the troops (my friends, not actual troops) in support of him. I was making headway!  I Almost broke down and bought for myself, a #6 jersey!  That’s quite significant.  I was a huge fan of Jay Cutler.  I’m rethinking that now. 😦

And the above pic is a better option for me to wear to Bears games, anyway, rather than a #6 jersey.    Orange and Blue, with a snap of Cheetah, so as not to be boring!

I think Phil Emery (Bears new GM) should fine Jay $1M for shoddy behavior…not befitting a gentleman, or the leader of the Chicago Bears.  Give the money to charity, and teach him a lesson.  And Lovie should give him a stern talking to…I mean, as “stern” as Lovie can get.  Hmmm, that possibly won’t happen.  Actually, I’m up to the task.  I’ll talk to him.  Professional athletes are role models, regardless of whether they want to or not.  $50M contracts from the teams (paid in part by this season ticket holder) and endorsement deals from the likes of Nike, Reebok, Cadillac and Ray Ban, pay them to be role models.  That’s the nature of the business.  If you don’t like it, you can pedal clothes and hotel rooms and write a blog, like me.  I’m not a role model, but you won’t ever see me flipping someone off!  Bad behavior is poor form…and Bad Karma.  Chicago sports teams do NOT need anymore bad karma (poor Derick Rose…and speaking of Derick Rose, he could teach Mr. Cutler a thing or 2 about class!  His was not bad karma , it was just bad luck…really, really bad luck!).  Look what happened to Tiger with his unbecoming behavior, he lost most endorsement deals (or they were back-burnered) and his game went in the toilet for 2 years.  One word.  Karma.  Two words.  Bad Karma.

Jay!!!  Wake up.  Smell the Gatorade.  Clean up your act.  Act like a Gentleman.  And it wouldn’t hurt to hit the treadmill, as I’ve heard many, many comments that You may not be in the best shape.  And heck, neither am I, but I’m not paid $50M to be in shape.  I’m paid to be charming and witty…and I deliver.  🙂

I’ve enjoyed writing about fashion, high heels, Pinterest and what “chubby” men should wear (Monday’s MANic blog).  I’m not quite ready to go back to penning what you need to do with your life…I’m still figuring out what to do with mine and would like to continue to do so for the next few months, before it becomes football season.  Plus Mer Mer comes home today for the summer, so I’d like to focus on her and her life goals, and not have to focus on yours!  I mean, my goodness gracious!

In addition, I’d like to go back to posting these pictures of You, where you are NOT flipping the bird.

Clearly Jay missed my blog on Carolina Panther’s Jeremy Shockey and his boorish behavior in flipping off the Chicago Bears fans.  For his convenience, I’m providing a link here.  Again, I abhor this type of behavior…Especially from Grown Men.

Or… he could have just googled “Jeremy Shockey’s boorish behavior” and my blog post is Google’s #1 search result. 🙂

At the end of this blog, just in case Mr. Cutler Also missed my blog on “How to be a Gentleman”, I’ve provided another link, for his convenience to brush up on his gentlemanly techniques.

Ok, I vented.  I feel better now! 🙂

And Jay… you owe the city of Chicago (and this blogger) an apology.

Waiting patiently,

Terry O’Brien

Famous Blogger and someone who is immensely qualified to be your Life Coach…and You need one!

Today’s blog on “Nail polish is the new lipstick”  will appear later today, or sometime next week.  I felt there were other pressing matters…but so are lovely nails, so hopefully you’ll get 2 blogs today!  Yippee!!

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